What can you do when you face this opposition? Here are some suggestions; some may work all the time, some may work only in certain situations, some may cause more issues then you asked for (unfortunately you just never know how someone may react) but when you need fresh ammo to defend you beliefs, I hope these help.
Dealing with Opposition – A Few Tips
Sometimes you can just dodge the bullet by saying “That’s nice, I’ll have to look into it.”
What they don’t know, they can’t oppose. Sometimes it’s best not to share what you are doing even if you want everyone to know how great something is.
Many times people are simply opposed because you come off spouting this unasked for advice and they feel like you are a parent snob. People seem to be more receptive if they are the ones who instigate the conversation.
Yes, this seems to be the opposite of some of the previous advice but sometimes people are actually just clueless as to the benefits/reason for doing whatever you are doing.
Sadly many parents who research their parenting choices are not given the credit they deserve. So when your opposition won’t listen to you and your opinions, go ahead and give them an “actually Dr. so-and-so or the AAP says…”
When they say you will never stick with cloth diapers, prove them wrong. A family member told me that nobody every sticks with cloth diapering when I told them I was planning on switching. One year later, that family member has now just recommended cloth diapers to another relative. Hmmm guess I was right after all!
This seems obvious. When I’m telling someone why we do something, I never for a second think that they are a bad parent because they do something else. However, people seem to think that. They hear “well we do this” and interpret it as “you’re a horrible parent for not doing this too”. The only real way to avoid this issue is to clarify that you are not saying those who do things differently are wrong or bad, just that you prefer your way.
If you are constantly getting pestered by the same person over and over again, perhaps it’s best to just come out in the open and tell them that while you know they love your kids and are just trying to be helpful, it’s really upsetting that they keep bothering you about it and that you are comfortable with the way you are doing things.
You will always get unsolicited advice but now you have a few more ways to handle it.